Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert with over 30 years of private practice experience. She is the author of books such as, ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety’.   In this conversation, Erica and Steven discuss topics such as, how the mental health crisis is impacting children, how attachment disorders are created in childhood, the dangers of the falling birth rate, and how daycare may cause future issues for your kid.  00:00 Intro 02:21 Erica's Mission 08:12 Who Are Erica's Patients? 09:35 How Have Social Changes Influenced Parenting? 13:00 Is the Role of a Mother More Important Than That of a Father? 16:30 Why Are Fathers Important From a Biological Level? 23:20 Erica's Unpopular Ideas About Parenting 25:17 Family Diaspora: Raising Children Without Extended Family 27:31 Can Raising Children Away From Extended Family Be Justified? 28:30 Voluntary Childlessness 29:25 Attachment Disorders 33:40 How Do Attachment Disorders Manifest in Adulthood? 34:54 Choosing a Partner Based on Attachment Styles 36:20 Predicting Relationship Success Based on Attachment Styles 37:53 Does Having More Children Correlate With Neglect? 39:19 Decline in Birth Rates 41:23 What Is Unique About Relationships With Your Own Children? 43:12 What Contributes to Growing Infertility Among People? 46:45 How Did Erica Manage to Balance Work and Motherhood? 48:48 Should Fathers Be the Stay-at-Home Parent? 51:18 Harlow's Study on Rhesus Monkeys 53:38 The Challenge of Motherhood in Poor Socioeconomic Conditions 57:36 Does More Paid Leave Equal Better Childcare? 59:10 Connection Between Upbringing and Success in Adult Life 01:01:40 ADHD: Why Has It Risen So Much in the Past Decade? 01:07:40 We're Medicating ADHD Wrong 01:09:26 The Top Stressors We're Exposing Our Children To 01:11:29 Is ADHD Hereditary? 01:16:50 What's Wrong With Medicating Children? 01:21:15 The Link Between Stress and ADHD 01:22:23 What to Do if a Kid Screams in a Supermarket 01:25:54 The Different Types of Trauma 01:32:43 Same-Sex Couples Taking Roles 01:38:50 What Should Career-Driven Mothers Do? 01:42:08 Not Everyone Can Do This Stuff 01:45:25 Children Don't Need Other Kids Until the Age of 3 01:47:00 Ads 01:48:59 What's So Important at 3 Years Old? 01:55:32 Can I Repair My Trauma and Brain Past My 30s? 01:58:44 Our Pain and Trauma Are Rooted in Childhood 02:02:33 Is "Daddy Issues" a Thing? 02:06:33 Are We Taking Men's Purpose Away? 02:10:42 Men's Testosterone Drops When They Become Fathers 02:13:03 What Happens When Men Become the Primary Caregiver? 02:16:22 Should We Split Schools Into Genders? 02:19:11 Testosterone Decrease 02:21:12 Raising Healthy Kids in a World of Technology 02:24:45 The Importance of Being Present With Your Child 02:25:48 What Should Employers Do? 02:27:22 Do You Realise How Controversial the Things You Say Are? 02:28:02 The Reason All of This Is So Personal to You 02:30:58 What Does Your Obituary Say? Follow Erica:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/pwv9PCz0lRb  Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/2EKsgfB0lRb  Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/OPtiA4a8lRb  You can purchase Erica’s books: ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety’, here: https://amzn.to/41CKbWd 'Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters' - https://www.amazon.com/Being-There-Prioritizing-Motherhood-Matters/dp/0143109294 The The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Independent research: https://stevenbartlett.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/DOAC-Erica-Komisar-Independent-research-further-reading.pdf Sponsors: ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off WHOOP - https://JOIN.WHOOP.COM/CEO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you being manipulated without knowing it? Robert Greene reveals the silent tactics of influence and how to take back control   Robert Greene, returning for his third time on DOAC, is a world-renowned expert on human psychology and behaviour. He is also a multiple New York Times bestselling-author of 7 books such as, ‘The 48 Laws of Power’, ‘The Art of Seduction’ and ‘The 33 Strategies of War’. In this conversation, Robert and Steven discuss topics such as, how most people don’t realise they’re narcissists, the hidden cost of porn, why you’re setting your child up for misery, and why good people never win. 00:00 Intro 02:14 The Most Important Decision of Your Life 04:53 Is There a Strategy for Finding Your Purpose? 09:52 Is It Harder to Find Your Purpose When You're Older? 14:30 The Only Way to Learn Anything! 15:50 Why Do We Procrastinate? 17:11 We Need to Develop Toughness and Set Limits 20:08 Skills Are the Gold of Today's World 23:02 The Longer Road vs. Shortcuts 26:34 Channeling Your Dark Side 30:31 How Important Is Focus for Mastery? 41:27 Too Many People Want Quick Returns 43:36 The Different Types of Intelligence 47:05 Controlling Your Envy Is Important 52:29 Use Your Envy to Become Better 54:13 Why Mastery Is Still a Successful Book 55:53 What Is the Solution to Loneliness and Powerlessness? 01:01:30 The Difference Between Being Lonely and Alone 01:09:49 How Pornography Hooks You 01:16:10 Ads 01:17:15 Are We Breeding a Culture of Lower Motivation Because of Porn? 01:21:43 What Do We Not Want to Admit About Human Nature? 01:24:28 The Narcissist in Us 01:27:20 Dealing With Narcissists 01:28:47 Do We Have to Be Actors to Get Ahead? 01:30:42 Do You Need Lies and Manipulation to Succeed in Life? 01:33:16 The Contribution Score 01:35:09 Let Others Do the Work, but Take the Credit 01:39:42 The Importance of Self-Control 01:44:00 What to Do When Injustice Is Done to Us 01:48:29 Predators Love Prey 01:49:31 Are We Going Through Dangerous Times? 01:57:16 Wokeism and Trump: Which Side Got Things Right and Wrong? 02:02:47 The Power of the Masses Can Be Dangerous 02:05:56 Are We Caught Up in Maniac Solutions? 02:08:33 Ads 02:09:28 What Does Our Identity Mean to Us? 02:13:59 Our Minds Are Getting Smaller! 02:19:33 Judging Based on Appearances 02:22:54 How Does Someone With Power Behave? 02:25:33 Can You Fake It Until You Make It? 02:26:10 How to Be Confident 02:28:20 How to Believe in Yourself When You Don't 02:34:36 What to Do in Negotiations Follow Robert:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/WLXqDa7GiRb  Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/RYo8kigHiRb  Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/s0by34hHiRb  Spotify: You can purchase Robert’s book, ‘The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations from the author of the bestselling The 48 Laws of Power’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/9s2XkfoHiRb  Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook  You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Independent fact check - https://stevenbartlett.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/DOAC-Robert-Greene-Independent-research.pdf Sponsors: PerfectTed - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% off Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices